I Messed Up: Learning The Hard Way

Last year I screwed up BIG TIME on some client jobs.  The shame I felt making mistakes is indescribable, and led to a crisis of confidence.  But each time I picked myself up out of the ditch, made sure the client wasn’t out of pocket as a result, and worked furiously to learn where I went wrong and to improve my knowledge or skills for next time. 

It’s a brutal way to learn, especially when you’re running a business and meant to be the person in-the-know.  But as I tell my community of D-I-Y women:

·       Nobody is perfect

·       Even skilled and experienced trades make mistakes (actually quite frequently)

·       Most things are fixable 

An account on Instagram dedicated to mistakes by tradespeople

But it still sucks!   

I’m the first to admit, I didn’t grow up handy.  I came late to this whole D-I-Y/handywoman thing, and I am on an ongoing (never-ending) learning journey which I reckon is actually a great way to approach things.  Turns out, I am in fact not a natural with my hands (I am better in the brains department!) and sometimes it takes me a while to really nail a new skill.  Plus, when I don’t do the same trade all day every day, it’s no wonder I end up the proverbial ‘jack of all trades, master of none’, right?  I’m a handywoman after all – which by definition means I am handy, not expert.      

The mistakes I made in 2024 did lead to lessons and improvement, so below is a bit of a wrap-up so you can learn the easy way instead.  😊

Biggest Muck ups and What I Can Share as a Result

Door handles

On 3 separate jobs I faced door handle challenges:

1.       At Erica’s, the problem was just that my pace was slow on account of having to chisel out new recesses for the latch plate.  The great news, even as a novice, Erica was a gun at this task!  Secondly, enlarging a hole (for the handle) through a hollow core door is challenging because the hole saw functionality is forfeited when there’s nothing for the pilot bit to drill through.  A guide/jig or a piece of plywood is the answer.  (see here) 

2.       Without instructions, drilling the right holes at the right measurements was less precise than needed on Olivia's job.  Plus, another case of drilling where an existing hole had been (poorly) repaired meant the result was a bit rough.  Know your setback, drill perfectly straight, and understand the configuration of the assembly and required cut out sizes. 

3.       Not all handles are made equal.  Cheap brands have restricted functions – like the handle not suitable for both left and right opening such as the one Amanda bought.  This means that it has one right way up, which means if you’re installing it to fit your specific door set up, it may result in a handle you must lift up the handle to open!  (Which is not compliant by the way due to fire safety regulations).  Sometimes they have a little spring coil you can reverse so it opens the correct way.           

Door hinges

1.       Bron had a toilet door that was sagging.  I tried a few hinge fix tricks I knew, to no avail.  When I took the hinges off the door, I discovered someone had shaved the side of the hollow core door so much that only a sliver of timber veneer was holding the entire door weight at the hinges (which had failed)!  The mistake I made was not having a back-up plan when my attempts to fix the problem actually made it worse.  The fix required adding a bracing piece of timber down the side, but I couldn’t do this on the day which left them without a toilet door!  But P.S:  YOU CANNOT CUT DOWN A HOLLOW CORE DOOR because they’re hollow inside!!  You have 50mm tops of wiggle room (refer to manufacturer info).   

2.       Do y’all know you shouldn’t paint over hinge screws?  Removing screws whose heads have been painted (especially old flat head ones) is sooooo hard!  So is removing rusty or bent pins.  And finally, being able to screws back into the original hinge holes.  These were my challenges on Ali’s job.  Luckily they got their front door re-attached due to sheer persistence. 

Floating shelves

The absolute bane of my life.  Some floating shelves are designed better than others, but when Rachel’s custom shelves required holes drilled out for steel rods, there was not a millimetre of error allowed!  Despite using a drill guide, measuring and remeasuring (and measuring another 5 times!!), positioning my body to drill as straight as possible, and drilling in increasingly larger sizes (ie: starting at 5mm, then 6mm then 8mm and so on), one of my 12mm pilot holes in the timber was not 90°.  With the rod on a slight angle, it wouldn’t go into my perfectly aligned holes in the studs.  NIGHTMARE!!       

Sadly, there was no real lesson to be learnt here because there’s nothing I could have done differently.  However, knowing how to fix a f*** up is as important as knowing how to do the original job.  I leaned on mentors for advice, and they really came through! 

Garden Bench

A seemingly easy job that wasn’t done to my standard.  Replacing the slats on an old, rotten garden seat should be easy, but the conditions weren’t ideal at Emma’s.  Firstly, I had inadequate info.  Secondly, I couldn’t source the same sized timber slats, which when the holes in the steel sides are pre-determined, the spacing is fixed.  Thirdly, drilling straight when the drill motor is butting against the side is difficult (I needed a longer drill bit to clear it) and skew-whiff bolts look shabby.  Finally, I didn’t think through the job properly, and failing to hold the two sides equidistant apart along the length was a big mistake.  It resulted in a creep in the length of each slat which by the time I reached the top caused a noticeable lean.  Argh! 

That job took me so much longer than I expected, and I had to go back to fix it (free of charge) because I couldn’t stand it not being right. 

What I learned when things went wrong

At the risk of reducing things down to slogans, the lessons are actually simple: 

• I can’t know everything.

• Sometimes you only learn by doing and making the mistake.  It’s impossible to account for every scenario I’ll face onsite. 

• Knowledge doesn’t equal skill. (This is a biggie)

• When working on older builds, it’s common to experience what I call the ‘reno surprise’.  Basically, previous jobs that we discover haven’t been done properly, or maybe they were but it’s not how it’s done anymore because it’s a terrible way to do something.  We just have to work with what we’ve got.        

 

How I course corrected

There’s no advantage to me wallowing in my shame and misery, so I used each mistake as a learning opportunity. 

• Research and getting the info I need to get from clients - understanding the job before I begin is a really important, unmissable step.  That includes a back-up plan!  There is no shame in taking the time to fully read the manufacturer instructions.

• Practice – I can only get good through repeated practice so I need to spend time outside my job getting hands-on with new skills.   

• The right tool/s for the job – those tools that make it easier or mitigate errors (eg: drill guide for straight drilling)

• Set expectations and be transparent – telling my clients when I am not 100% confident.  Sometimes the best I can do is leverage prior experience and apply it to a new situation.  We’re doing D-I-Y here!   

• Don’t bite off more than I can chew – say no to jobs where the stakes are high, or ask for help if I need it

I really believe that bringing more integrity to trades is desperately needed, and it is part of the She Bangs ToolSchool mission.  And that means admitting one’s mistakes, learning from them, and being completely transparent about the service being provided.  I hope this blog goes some way towards that aim.